two rule books

Lead by example!

Living by one’s core values can be a difficult thing to do. To help me live by mine, I have some mantras which guide and motivate me to stay on my chosen path. 

“Lead by example” is one such mantra which was added to my repertoire when I was in my teens and active with the sea cadets. 

As a nurse practitioner, I often find myself in a position to provide advice, to expect others to follow my instructions. Most of the advice I offer is well received and some is no doubt, hard to follow.  

How do I know that? I know because from time to time, when I find myself in a difficult situation I think to myself: “what would I advise my self, if I were my patient?”

If I have sound advice for my self then I know that I must try to follow it. I know I do, especially if I also want to be able to feel authentic the next time I advise someone else to do the same. 

My experiences and the empathy I feel for my patients, fuels the compassion I can show to them as they take those difficult steps toward a steadier and happier self.

As a leader, a supervisor, a parent are you leading by example? Are you following your own advice or are you living your life with two rule books: one for others and one for yourself?

If you’d like help with that, reach out ! I’m here to help you.

To discover some of my other helpful mantras come back soon. 😉


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It doesn’t have to be this hard!

Those who know me well, know that I’m not really good at asking for help. I’m working on it. The journey to get to this success has been a difficult one. I will not bore you with the details but suffice it to say that when I first set out to start building my nurse practitioner private practice, I reached out to several people to help me with web design and after several very disappointing attempts I decided to create, on my own, the original version of It was ok. I learned a lot in the process but it didn’t have to be this hard.

I live by a few mantras. One which I learned when I was in the sea cadets is  “Lead By Example.” When I’m talking myself into doing something hard, I think to myself: what would I want my patients to do? Be brave, ask for help, and if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. 

Asking for help isn’t easy but struggling alone isn’t either. Reach out! Do it once, do it twice, do it as many times as it takes to find your match. If you haven’t found the mental healthcare you need I encourage you to give me a try. Book a free introduction session and find out how I might be able to help you.